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Those times when you're not even horny per say but... that person just makes you feel safe and in love and happy. So you're attracted to them anyway.

Feeling that sensation in your vagina with the same comfort and warmth that comes from the touch of their hands to your hair and the weight of their shoulders resting on yours, chests pressed together like cuddling but better.

Sex because you love the closeness of touching another person. Penetration because you love it when someone you love cums. A feeling of tiredness and comfort, low sex drive but a love for sex.

I guess sex is just a part of who I am. And nothing can take away my desire for it, even the fact that I'm on my period and masturbated three times a day for the last week.

If I ever say something like

"My sex drive has been low recently"

Or

"I'm not horny rn"

Do not believe me. I just like to play pretend sometimes😇

Sometimes I do be wishing my clit was inside my vagina tho😔

Communication is like lube, y'all. You may think you're fine without it. I'm sure you are. But I promise it is SO MUCH BETTER when you have LOTS of it.

Im alloallo and when i was a teen i began to experience attraction as intrusive thoughts about sex before i even fully understood what sex was, as well as an incessant urge to touch the person, and i would always stare at men's bulges through their pants. And when i was in the same classroom as my crush my vulva would throb really hard and it made me so uncomfy i would close my legs tightly to try and prevent it. Eventually i let go of my shame and learned to accept these things as normal.

I encourage everyone to do the same! Whether you experience a lot of attraction or none at all, don't let society invalidate your experiences. Live the life that is right for you.

Being both aroace and also a hormonal teenager means that when i find people very pretty and , dare I say hot, it stops there. I only want to look at and admire them, nothing else. Like, I've never saw a person I found attractive and whent "wowsers, I would like to start a relationship with them or even do something not safe for Tumblr", no I just think "wowsers their hot" and nothing else.

Also being transmasc and non binary makes me wonder if the things I'm feeling are admiration or gender envy so that's fun

We love sex education that is trans inclusive and gives practical sex advice

"hit His prostate this" "milk His prostate that"

where are the fucking posts about milking Her prostate.

I used to think romance was a social construct, but I'm changing my view. Here's how I actually think it works

Attraction (i personally don't use the split attraction model because I experience both every time) occurs when I meet someone and they have personality traits and appearance I like

This desire makes me want to be around them, get their attention, and talk to them more

Some of what people describe as romance- like wanting to be around the person or always thinking about them, is just the biological symptoms of attraction

Yet the ways we express this and shape our relationships is shaped by social expectations for how we should act. Like the ideas of marriage, big romantic gestures, maybe even monogamy. Rings? Flowers? Dates? These things are made up.

It's like gender. Something we intrinsically feel which has been drastically shaped by society's norms.

When hozier's "someone new" said that sex is holy and beautiful even in the context of one night stands he flipped every conservative off while still acknowledging the love associated with sex and he was so real for that

Frothing at the mouth every time I see a sex ed resource that says "use condoms" without any further elaboration. "Condoms prevent STIs and pregnancy in the vast majority of cases when used correctly" but then they don't talk about what correctly IS

Correct use of a condom means

Using the right size, because if it's too big it can slide off or leak and if it's too small it can break or come off. Condoms usually come in 5 sizes, I'm sure you could find others outside of that as well but in ten years of sex work I found they covered everyone

Using lube, even if you think you don't need it. With the exception of oral sex, condoms should always be used with lube, 100% of the time. Most important lube should be applied to the outside but a drop in the tip of the condom before putting it in is also a good idea

Being mindful that latex is prone to wearing out, being damaged by heat etc. Condoms should be kept somewhere cool, not folded in wallets or sat on in back pockets and should be changed between activities and after about 15 minutes of any vigorous activity. Ask me how I know (a condom snapped on my leg when a client was pulling out, because I didn't change it when I should have)

The penetrative partner should hold the base of the condom when they pull out, and should do so immediately after they ejaculate so the condom doesn't leak or come off as the penis gets flaccid

Bonus: a lot of people think hand stuff can't transmit STIs. Wrong! If you give your partner a handjob and then touch yourself you can get HPV, herpes (low risk), and infections like chlamydia and gonorrhea

This isn't meant to be stressful, and the most common STIs are the most treatable - and often curable - but getting gonorrhea in your eyes after a facial still extremely sucks and yet no one talks about the fact that any mucous membrane can be effected, not just your genitals (yes this includes your mouth and throat)

In ten years of doing sex work where I saw 10 clients a day most of the time I've had 4 condom fails ever. One was what I mentioned above when it snapped on my leg, one was a client on top of me didn't get off fast enough after he finished and the condom came off, and the other two were a Glyde brand magnum that was inexplicably twice the thickness of a regular condom and didn't stay put on anyone so I suggest just avoiding Glyde entirely (their water based lubes also stain fyi). With all other brands correct use = extremely safe

"Cute sexy girls this" and "tight pussy" that and obsession over fictional girls with big tits and smooth perfect skin and cutesy innocent attitudes.

I'm done with the male gaze. Show me some more disgusting, rancid, nasty female characters. Show me pussies that stink and armpits with long, thick hair. Show me monster women and ugly women and women who have violent and concerning urges.

Give me women's sexuality as a act and a desire, not something that happens to them. Show me women who attack you nastily and pierce you with their claws. Show me women oozing with piss and blood and pussy juice. I want scales and sharp teeth, I want women who eat roadkill.

Give me women who are monstrous and disgusting. And make this central to their femininity. Done being perfect and preyed upon.

Reminder that consent goes both ways!

If you're a woman dating a man, make sure you respect his boundaries! We're told men should always want sex and desire every sexual act, but this is not true. Men are people, and have varying desires.

Also, don't make men always initiate sex and affection. And don't expect men to "spoil you" and be a "gentleman" 24/7. These things are nice because they make you feel loved and desired, but it's important to make your partner feel the same way.

Relationships should be equal. This applies to every relationship of course, not just a man and a woman, but I've noticed that gender norms often influence these relationships a little bit more.

My bf is shorter than me and I love it!

I'm 5'7 and he's 5'1, but luckily he doesn't have too many masculinity issues so he's okay sitting in my lap, and letting me spoon him!

We're also both switches, which plays into this dynamic. But when he's on top of me in the bedroom, growling nasty things in my ear and fucking me hard, it doesn't bother me in the slightest how tall I am.

The tall girl pain of wanting to sit on a guys lap, but being so tall, when you do, he immediately gets boobs in the face… And really, who wants that?

The tall girl pain of going in to hug a guy innocently, and again, he gets boobs in the face… Seriously, who wants that?

The tall girl pain of wanting to get thrown around and dominated, but most guys being barely able to lift me/hold me…

At the root of sex positivity is self-love.

Take no shit. Protect yourself from stds. Don't let anyone violate your consent.

You're worth it.

girl help I’m crying over an astronaut meme

"I don't care if the women who partake in BDSM claim to enjoy it"

So you're literally telling me that listening to women's feelings and desires is misogynistic. Got it.

BDSM is not abuse because it is chosen, asked for, and negotiated. Safewords and others systems are in place to make you feel safe. You do it with a partner you trust. These factors make it completely different than abuse because of, yes, consent.

While there are cases where abusers use the label of BDSM to justify their abusive behavior, these situations are abuse and should not be considered BDSM. And this is not what the majority of people are talking about when referring to BDSM.

BDSM, and consensual sex in general, is empowering because it allows people to connect with their own desires and make choices based on these desires. Regardless of any pretend power dynamics, everyone is in control of the situation.

It may not be your personal preference, but consenting adults can do what they want to do in their own time.

When you have grown up in a violent misogynistic environment where women, including your own mother, were regularly beaten by their husbands, the increasing popularity of BDSM seems particularly disturbing. I don't care if it is consensual, I don't care if the women who partake in BDSM claim to enjoy it. You are emulating the abuse that thousands of women suffer daily for sexual gratification. And that's perverse. You can scream about consent all you want. At the end of the day, you still find the abuse that my father inflicted on my mother sexy. You still find sexualized violence sexy enough to be emulated. Yes, that makes you a bad person.

Me when I'm into vampires, vore, submissive men, pegging, blood, cnc, knives, tentacles, impact play, and biting and I meet my vanilla ass boyfriend who is like... "oh kinks of mine? Hmm... maybe being told I'm doing a good job fucking you"

Like bro. I am about to show you what you have been missing don't you worry. I am going to introduce you to a whole new world just you wait.

fine i get off on emasculating tiny men. don't @ me.

Sent my boyfriend a whole list of kinky fantasies, hentai images, and the like and asked him to pick his favorites.

Bro liked all the ones where I was the sub and was okay with trying the ones where was the sub.

He lets me peg him and plays his part as a submissive, but I can tell it's not his preference, and that hurts me deeply. I personally am a switch and feel I need to be in both roles at different times to have a satisfying sex life.

Is it petty to consider ending our relationship over this? He is in every other way completely perfect for me. Treats me right, listens to my opinions, adores and respects me. We have many similarities as people and have aligning life goals.

Hot take for pride month: Ripping into people who are exceptionally horny JUST for being exceptionally horny, comes from the same place of puritanical cishet normativity that "you'll want sex one day" at aspec people or "I dont care what people do in their bedroom" at most queer people comes from, because cishet normativity includes the societal beliefs that everyone should be cishet, should want vanilla straight sex, and should be quiet and ashamed of wanting sex at all despite the previous 'rule.'

Like it's one thing if someone is being kinky and horny at everyone without regard for consent or safe spaces for kink/sex, that's not chill and definitely needs to be called out, but I see a lot of you just. Plop yourself into someone's porn blog or into a group of friends minding their tags and staying in their own NSFW positive community with their NSFW, and ripping into them like they're criminals for being horny at all. So many of you will put yourself into an NSFW space and tell people in it that just by existing somewhere they can be discovered they're undermining consent when by invading an inherently sexual space uninvited and with malicious intent, it's YOU who is undermining consent! No one consented to having you interrupt their sexual enjoyment just to fucking kink and slut shame them! If you accidentally come across an NSFW space it's so fucking easy to remove yourself from it and not participate! Just like it's easy for cishet people to remove themself from queer spaces instead of telling everyone in them how gross they are!

Sexual attraction or enjoyment isn't something everyone experiences, but it IS often important to the identity and lives of the people who DO. Sex and kink have been tools for a lot of non-het, gnc, queer, and trans folk to explore their identity, gender, and attraction For Since The Beginning Of Civilization, and your willingness to hurt and shame others for even touching that tool is hypocritical and oppressive.

By garnering a general public feeling of shame and disgust toward sex and exploring it with other consenting adults, you're making trans people feel ashamed of trying to find comfort sexually in their gender now that they recognize it and even more so for enjoying that new found comfort and pride, you're making queer people as a whole feel ashamed of expressing a chunk of their sexuality and the sexual attraction that comes with it, you're making aspec people who want to explore and discuss with others what they do and don't enjoy sexually ashamed and scared to do so, and you're even making survivors of SA feel guilty and gross for trying to discover ways of feeling comfortable in their sexuality and attraction again. Not even going into hypersexuality, it's common existence among queer folk and SA survivors, and how a positive if vigorous relationship with sex tends to help this group of individuals cope and live healthy lives despite it.

I'm tired of seeing y'all rip on porn blogs just for being porn blogs, I'm tired of seeing some of y'all call groups of grown adults being horny at each other in safe and careful ways Groomers, (as if doing so doesn't also diminish the definition of actual grooming and darken the already murky waters for seeking help and helping others dealing with grooming.) you're using the same rhetoric made to make queer people ashamed of being queer to continue making other queer people experiencing queerness differently from you ashamed of being queer!

The queer community, and pride, are about celebrating the fact that as people we all have unique and individual ways of experiencing life and expressing ourselves, and have been othered because our experiences don't line up with what society has deemed 'normal' and I'm tired of watching y'all demonize others when that unique individual way is in any way horny, because you're othering groups of people from your community! For not fitting! Into your definition of normal!!