Bimisogyny - Tumblr Posts

“available to men” is a really gross and misogynist way to talk about bi women so jot that down

bisexual women shouldn't have to downplay the intensity of our attraction to men and bisexual women shouldn't have to add a disclaimer about how we don't actually like, like men and bisexual women shouldn't have to assure anyone that we like women more, or that we like men but we only love women, or that we would never be with a man voluntarily, yadda yadda yadda.... like what started as a joke about preferring women either because of a shared experience or because of the euphoria of realizing we could be attracted to women has turned into a game to convince everyone that we're not like those bisexuals. and the thing is!! a couple years ago we recognized this as a real issue but now we seem to have agreed that it's nbd because men suck anyways or whatever.......... whatever.

i really do think that bi women need to stop trying to explain themselves to biphobic misogynists, they're going to find a problem with you no matter what you do. girls, you don't owe them shit

you don't owe them an explanation for why you're attracted to multiple genders. you don't owe them an explanation for why you're dating anyone of any gender. you don't owe them an explanation for why you rejected someone of a gender you experience attraction to. you don't owe them an explanation for why you've never actually dated anyone of a gender you experience attraction to. you don't owe them an explanation for why you might call yourself a butch or femme. you don't have to wish you weren't attracted to [insert gender] just to please biphobes. you don't have to "pick a side" just to please biphobes.

and most importantly, you are allowed to tell biphobic misogynists to fuck off. you are allowed to be mean to them. you are allowed to say that you won't change for them.

Happy Pride!

I made this infographic series on some statistics centered around bisexual women.

Bisexual women are more likely to:

Be victims of sexual assault/rape

Be victims of Intimate Partner Violence (IPV)

Be at risk for suicide

Suffer from anxiety and poor mental health

Use substances

I plan on doing some more bisexual female/lesbian infographics and some LGB history posts for Pride.

These infographics also take me several hours to research, write, compile, and design, so a reblog or follow is very appreciated :)

fucking destroy the idea that teenage girls fake their sexualities and are only queer for attention

I read Bi: The Hidden Culture, History, and Science of Bisexuality by Julia Shaw and I was shocked at how much more severe the issue of biphobia and bimisogyny is than most people, even within the bisexual community, even realize. I’ve posted links to the relevant quotes from this book and organized them under these broad points:

bi men are targeted by both homophobia and biphobia; biphobia bi men experience is a materially distinct oppression than homophobia;

bi women are targeted by both lesbophobia and biphobia; bimisogyny, the intersection of misogyny and biphobia, is a materially distinct oppression from lesbophobia;

bisexuals of color, disabled bisexuals, and trans/nb bisexuals experience profound erasure from bi representation and scholarship, and access to necessary resources;

bi people experience "double discrimination"/biphobia from the straight and gay communities; bi ppl are at risk of discrimination for bisexuality specifically;

This biphobic discrimination in the gay community goes back decades;

the terminology used to describe gay rights is often exclusive of us to a damaging degree. this means in addition to specific biphobic struggles, bisexuals often must face generalized homophobia without the "buffer" of acceptance in the larger LGBT+ community and with some enhanced difficulties acquiring LGBT+ resources; and finally,

positive aspects of bisexuality and bi identity/nuance corner.

The most important information I found is that bi+ people have a higher rate of mental health issues, suicidal and self-harm issues, addiction, isolation, rape, IPV, stalking, abuse, and are less likely to be out as bisexual or to have strong connections to the larger LGBT+ community to act as a buffer against discrimination, as opposed to lesbians and gay men. They are also erased and denied access to LGBT+ spaces, resources, and legal protections. As opposed to gay men and lesbians, the particularities of the bisexual experience includes 1) experiencing double discrimination, 2) less likely to be out, resulting in mental health issues 3) bisexuals are more isolated on average than LG people, and 4) bisexuals struggle with internalized biphobia. I've broken down these arguments and sourced further information on the material affects of biphobia here on my Wordpress blog, since Tumblr won't let me post the full quote all at once, but you can find the quotes with the specific research and studies I'm basing these claims on in my tag for this book or under my general book quotes link, #education multiplies power

Butch is a term for lesbians only. Please let lesbians have just one thing. Just one

no

I do think it’s odd to create an environment that’s very hostile at best to bisexual women and then be surprised when there turns out to be a large amount of bisexual women who would do anything before admitting they’re bisexual there