"Why Can't I Transition To Be Intersex?"

"Why can't I transition to be intersex?"

This is a sentiment I see a lot in the trans community, and I believe it is because of the fundamental misunderstanding of how the term intersex is seen. Most people, even those in the queer community, see intersex as a rare third sex where you are born with both genitalia. This is inaccurate, and perpetuates a harmful stereotype!

If you want to transition to be 'a rare third sex with both genitalia', by all means, go ahead! But do not call this transitioning to intersex, do not say you want an intersex body, do not involve intersex people in it!

There are plenty of words for this, bigenital, transneutral, altersex, salmacian, etc! These words actually portray YOUR EXPERIENCE transitioning to this state, unlike co-opting the term intersex.

Intersex is defined as being born with and/or naturally developing anatomy, sex characteristics, hormones, or chromosomes that do not fit the typical definitions of male or female - in short, there are a LOT of ways one can be intersex, not all of these ways are obvious. We are not a third sex but rather an in-between state that cannot be neatly categorized into either of the two modes (male or female) of the bimodal sex distribution.

The operative word here in defining intersex is that you are born with these traits, or they naturally develop later in life, such as during natal puberty, with no medical interventions to cause them. This is what intersex refers to. You cannot transition (medically alter the body), to be intersex (a non-medically-achieved state). It doesn't work like that.

On the flip side of this, an intersex person cannot transition to be perisex, as perisex is a non-medically achieved state referring to the state of your body in the absence of medical intervention. This means that nothing the medical industry can do to us will ever make us perisex, no matter how badly they want to. If you can transition to be intersex, does that mean those of us who have experienced medical violence to "fix" our bodies have been successfully made perisex? Because that is what you are insisting when you insist you can transition into being intersex or perisex via medical intervention.

Intersex people are a violently erased group with very few people who are open and advocating for our visibility and right to bodily autonomy, compared to the trans community. By using this label when you do not have this lived experience with an intersex body, you are playing a part in our further erasure.

People are terrible at boycotting entertainment. You know you can be like other Disney characters-Jack Sparrow and Captain Hook? You know, PIRATES? Anyway boycott Disney and Disney owned properties/companies that support Israel.

proof of Disney's Zionism:

The Walt Disney Company

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periodic reminder that it costs zero dollars and zero cents to not use the words psychotic, psycho, schizophrenic, schizo, insane, or delusional to mean derogatory things

no, that alt right person is not “psychotic” for being racist and having racist beliefs. you can be racist without having psychosis. it’s not mental illness causing these beliefs, it’s just hatred and bigotry.

no, that person advocating to repeal the medical rights of trans people is not “delusional/deluded”. you can be transphobic without experiencing delusions. it’s not a mental illness that causes these beliefs, it’s just hatred and bigotry.

no, that person supporting israel is not “insane” for justifying and supporting genocide. you can support genocide without having a severe mental illness. it’s not mental illness that causes these beliefs, it’s cruelty and hatred.

just find a different word. it is not that difficult. what IS difficult is living with psychosis, especially when it is stigmatized day in and day out. when we equate medical conditions with moral standing or worth, that’s eugenics.

i wish nothing but peace and love on everyone including those who have used these terms in the past, present and future, but i am tired.

there are so many good posts making good points that fall short because they use terms relating to psychosis to indicate moral failing.

psychosis. is. not. morally. corrupt.

STOP equating psychosis with bigotry, hatred, and cruelty.

note. people without psychotic symptoms are encouraged to reblog this. i am not going to do more than my share of the work to educate non-psychotics when i’m struggling with my own symptoms. thank you.

Pride month is upon us! Huzzah! Include intersex people in your pride celebrations! We are so very invisible, even in queer spaces, do what you can to boost intersex voices this pride month!

We love seeing representation & we love seeing our flag alongside the lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, etc flags!

Do not listen to TERFs on issues of intersex terminology, largely speaking, we do NOT like the term DSD.

Try not to use 'AFAB' or 'AMAB' incorrectly. These terms should be used to describe your own personal experiences, not to describe groups of people. Avoid phrases like 'AFAB anatomy' or 'AMAB socialization' when speaking on trans issues, as this excludes intersex experiences & bodies from the conversation. And note, there is no such thing as AIAB! Intersex people are always forced to be either male or female, often with surgery and harmful medicalization, this is a form of intersexist violence.

Use the word perisex (or endosex/dyadic) when you speak about people who are not intersex! The same way you use the word cisgender to speak about people who are not trans. It's important in denoting that intersex people are normal, just different.

; fr op don't stop. As an aroacespec person this is funny as shit. Continuing giving us shoutouts please. /gen

am I wrong for saying “shoutout to asexuals”?

ok so recently, whenever a conversation has died or whatever, I’ll just say “shoutout to asexuals” and then move on, because, idk, it’s a bit funnygoofy and also I like my asexual friends. Anyway, I said it in front of my mother and she said not to do it anymore, because it could be seen as “othering” people with asexuality. I don’t see it that way at all, but I wouldn’t like to be accidentally homophobic, so I’m using a poll to get real asexual opinions

for reference, I’m bisexual, and my mother knows that, so I am part of the LQBTQ+ community, but I’m (maybe) not asexual. I’ve been thinking about things around the aro/ace spectrum, based on past experiences, but I feel as though I’m not sure enough to give myself any proper labels. My mother doesn’t know about that part.

so, my mother’s arguments:

It may seem like I’m “othering” the asexual community by saying that

its like being the a white girl in a room with a few black people in it and saying “shoutout to black people” - it feels weird to her

im not saying it because I genuinely want to support asexuals, I’m saying it as more of a verbal tic

my 2 asexual friends agreeing is not a large enough group, even if they both are fine with it, others may not be

and my arguments are:

Im saying it to include asexuals, because they can sometimes feel disregarded in LGBTQ+ spaces

its pride month, literally the best time to give random unprovoked asexuality shoutouts

Idk, I feel like asexual people wouldn’t really be offended by that

both of my asexual friends think it’s hilarious and encourage me to keep going

it’s like a cis person saying “yay trans pride” at random moments and being told not to because it’s making trans people feel more separate

im not othering asexual people, I’m celebrating them

also pls reblog this around I want the largest possible data set so I know if I’m problematic or not

; I can't believe I have to say this but pride flags are not exclusively a LGBTQIA+ thing. They're pride flags, they're for showing pride of who you are or about something ( like a disability, etc ) that is apart of you or significant to a community. Especially real for minorities that are often forgotten or discriminated against !!

; I'm saying this because someone on Tiktok posted an intro and included the disabled pride flag ( along with some other pride flags ) and someone asked what it meant, and when told by a few people that it was the disabled pride flag, their response was literally " the lgbt is getting out of hand. What are you, attracted to disabilities ?? Or what you want to be disabled ?? " like no. The lgbtqia+ was literally not mentioned once. It's a pride flag, but not necessarily a pride flag meant to represent an lgbtqia+ identity. Thank you.

; the flag in question was this btw

; image description begin: the disabled pride flag. A grey rectangle with the colours green, light blue, white, yellow and desaturated red going vertically from the top left to the bottom right of the flag. :image description end