; Fr Op Don't Stop. As An Aroacespec Person This Is Funny As Shit. Continuing Giving Us Shoutouts Please.

; fr op don't stop. As an aroacespec person this is funny as shit. Continuing giving us shoutouts please. /gen

am I wrong for saying “shoutout to asexuals”?

ok so recently, whenever a conversation has died or whatever, I’ll just say “shoutout to asexuals” and then move on, because, idk, it’s a bit funnygoofy and also I like my asexual friends. Anyway, I said it in front of my mother and she said not to do it anymore, because it could be seen as “othering” people with asexuality. I don’t see it that way at all, but I wouldn’t like to be accidentally homophobic, so I’m using a poll to get real asexual opinions

for reference, I’m bisexual, and my mother knows that, so I am part of the LQBTQ+ community, but I’m (maybe) not asexual. I’ve been thinking about things around the aro/ace spectrum, based on past experiences, but I feel as though I’m not sure enough to give myself any proper labels. My mother doesn’t know about that part.

so, my mother’s arguments:

It may seem like I’m “othering” the asexual community by saying that

its like being the a white girl in a room with a few black people in it and saying “shoutout to black people” - it feels weird to her

im not saying it because I genuinely want to support asexuals, I’m saying it as more of a verbal tic

my 2 asexual friends agreeing is not a large enough group, even if they both are fine with it, others may not be

and my arguments are:

Im saying it to include asexuals, because they can sometimes feel disregarded in LGBTQ+ spaces

its pride month, literally the best time to give random unprovoked asexuality shoutouts

Idk, I feel like asexual people wouldn’t really be offended by that

both of my asexual friends think it’s hilarious and encourage me to keep going

it’s like a cis person saying “yay trans pride” at random moments and being told not to because it’s making trans people feel more separate

im not othering asexual people, I’m celebrating them

also pls reblog this around I want the largest possible data set so I know if I’m problematic or not

"Validity" should not have to be given. "Validity" should not have to be declared by the majority. "Validity" is a made-up qualifier and positions whoever is outside that label as having needed to give approval for someone to exist and take part. I am not "valid", because I was already here. We were already here, approved or unapproved.

Every microlabel, allospec identities of all kinds, the loveless, the aspec-allos, everyone who has ever been the subject of debate or been accused of making us all look bad; the stereotype, the asshole, the mold-breaker, the discourse topic, and the invisible. Validity is sold to us to put down some as pending approval and lift others as the gatekeepers, to pit us against each other to pick each other apart.

Don't seek approval. Just be.

; actually you forgot something it's

; 1) have a body

; 1.5) put sunscreen on the body

; 2) hydrate with water ( sun = sunny and sunny = hot and hot = sunburn therefore sun = sunburn )

; 3) take it to the beach

2 step guide to having a beach body!

1) Have a body.

2) Take it to the beach!

; I gave my dad a card with spongebob rectangle pants in the top corner. The hand writing made chickens cry in confusion but it's the thought that counts right 🤩

thank you so much to all the daddies out there. I hope your twink(s) wish you a happy father's day today

i just literally don't get how someone being a furry endangers anyone. like how. explain. what the person shopping for milk in the grocery store next to you wearing dog ears and a tail is actually murdering you via psychic damage? shut the fuck up just let people exist in ways that bring us joy my god some people are so joyless

periodic reminder that it costs zero dollars and zero cents to not use the words psychotic, psycho, schizophrenic, schizo, insane, or delusional to mean derogatory things

no, that alt right person is not “psychotic” for being racist and having racist beliefs. you can be racist without having psychosis. it’s not mental illness causing these beliefs, it’s just hatred and bigotry.

no, that person advocating to repeal the medical rights of trans people is not “delusional/deluded”. you can be transphobic without experiencing delusions. it’s not a mental illness that causes these beliefs, it’s just hatred and bigotry.

no, that person supporting israel is not “insane” for justifying and supporting genocide. you can support genocide without having a severe mental illness. it’s not mental illness that causes these beliefs, it’s cruelty and hatred.

just find a different word. it is not that difficult. what IS difficult is living with psychosis, especially when it is stigmatized day in and day out. when we equate medical conditions with moral standing or worth, that’s eugenics.

i wish nothing but peace and love on everyone including those who have used these terms in the past, present and future, but i am tired.

there are so many good posts making good points that fall short because they use terms relating to psychosis to indicate moral failing.

psychosis. is. not. morally. corrupt.

STOP equating psychosis with bigotry, hatred, and cruelty.

note. people without psychotic symptoms are encouraged to reblog this. i am not going to do more than my share of the work to educate non-psychotics when i’m struggling with my own symptoms. thank you.