Gravity Falls Was Such A Great Show For So Many Reasons But One In Particular That Stuck With Me To This

gravity falls was such a great show for so many reasons but one in particular that stuck with me to this day was that it proudly encouraged kids to be weird. there was never the almost stifling message of "everyone is their own normal :)" because as a neurodivergent child that is almost never how it actually feels. it did an awesome job at saying "yeah, you stick out like a sore thumb. six of em, actually! how cool is that!?" and it encouraged you to support your loved ones weirdness even if you don't begin to understand it

; I can't believe I have to say this but pride flags are not exclusively a LGBTQIA+ thing. They're pride flags, they're for showing pride of who you are or about something ( like a disability, etc ) that is apart of you or significant to a community. Especially real for minorities that are often forgotten or discriminated against !!

; I'm saying this because someone on Tiktok posted an intro and included the disabled pride flag ( along with some other pride flags ) and someone asked what it meant, and when told by a few people that it was the disabled pride flag, their response was literally " the lgbt is getting out of hand. What are you, attracted to disabilities ?? Or what you want to be disabled ?? " like no. The lgbtqia+ was literally not mentioned once. It's a pride flag, but not necessarily a pride flag meant to represent an lgbtqia+ identity. Thank you.

; the flag in question was this btw

; image description begin: the disabled pride flag. A grey rectangle with the colours green, light blue, white, yellow and desaturated red going vertically from the top left to the bottom right of the flag. :image description end

; the problem is I've started assuming people don't actually want my honest opinion when they ask for it because I've been called rude or had people be offended when I do, but now people have started complaining that I'm " lying to them " when I compliment them instead and I'm like. ☹️ what.

Why are neurotypicals always like "What do you think? Give me your honest opinion." and then they get upset when you tell them your honest opinion? You can just. Ask. For a compliment. You can ask for support.

Why do they do it? Do they think they sound selfish if they ask for compliments?? Do they think *I* sound selfish when I ask for compliments??

If you're neurotypical and you're reading this, please just ask for compliments when you want them and ask for people's honest opinions when you actually want them.

Thanks for reading!

; fr op don't stop. As an aroacespec person this is funny as shit. Continuing giving us shoutouts please. /gen

am I wrong for saying “shoutout to asexuals”?

ok so recently, whenever a conversation has died or whatever, I’ll just say “shoutout to asexuals” and then move on, because, idk, it’s a bit funnygoofy and also I like my asexual friends. Anyway, I said it in front of my mother and she said not to do it anymore, because it could be seen as “othering” people with asexuality. I don’t see it that way at all, but I wouldn’t like to be accidentally homophobic, so I’m using a poll to get real asexual opinions

for reference, I’m bisexual, and my mother knows that, so I am part of the LQBTQ+ community, but I’m (maybe) not asexual. I’ve been thinking about things around the aro/ace spectrum, based on past experiences, but I feel as though I’m not sure enough to give myself any proper labels. My mother doesn’t know about that part.

so, my mother’s arguments:

It may seem like I’m “othering” the asexual community by saying that

its like being the a white girl in a room with a few black people in it and saying “shoutout to black people” - it feels weird to her

im not saying it because I genuinely want to support asexuals, I’m saying it as more of a verbal tic

my 2 asexual friends agreeing is not a large enough group, even if they both are fine with it, others may not be

and my arguments are:

Im saying it to include asexuals, because they can sometimes feel disregarded in LGBTQ+ spaces

its pride month, literally the best time to give random unprovoked asexuality shoutouts

Idk, I feel like asexual people wouldn’t really be offended by that

both of my asexual friends think it’s hilarious and encourage me to keep going

it’s like a cis person saying “yay trans pride” at random moments and being told not to because it’s making trans people feel more separate

im not othering asexual people, I’m celebrating them

also pls reblog this around I want the largest possible data set so I know if I’m problematic or not

Pride month is upon us! Huzzah! Include intersex people in your pride celebrations! We are so very invisible, even in queer spaces, do what you can to boost intersex voices this pride month!

We love seeing representation & we love seeing our flag alongside the lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, etc flags!

Do not listen to TERFs on issues of intersex terminology, largely speaking, we do NOT like the term DSD.

Try not to use 'AFAB' or 'AMAB' incorrectly. These terms should be used to describe your own personal experiences, not to describe groups of people. Avoid phrases like 'AFAB anatomy' or 'AMAB socialization' when speaking on trans issues, as this excludes intersex experiences & bodies from the conversation. And note, there is no such thing as AIAB! Intersex people are always forced to be either male or female, often with surgery and harmful medicalization, this is a form of intersexist violence.

Use the word perisex (or endosex/dyadic) when you speak about people who are not intersex! The same way you use the word cisgender to speak about people who are not trans. It's important in denoting that intersex people are normal, just different.

"Validity" should not have to be given. "Validity" should not have to be declared by the majority. "Validity" is a made-up qualifier and positions whoever is outside that label as having needed to give approval for someone to exist and take part. I am not "valid", because I was already here. We were already here, approved or unapproved.

Every microlabel, allospec identities of all kinds, the loveless, the aspec-allos, everyone who has ever been the subject of debate or been accused of making us all look bad; the stereotype, the asshole, the mold-breaker, the discourse topic, and the invisible. Validity is sold to us to put down some as pending approval and lift others as the gatekeepers, to pit us against each other to pick each other apart.

Don't seek approval. Just be.