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Bi women like pussy lmao that’s like a requirement lmaaaooooo

unfriendly reminder that bisexual means attraction regardless of/to all genders and saying that’s not the definition and that it’s not inclusive is biphobic as fuck.

Like imagine if one day someone just came up with a new word that meant "lesbian but will date trans women" or "lesbian but like women for their personalities instead of looks" and randomly decided that the old term lesbian meant you only like cis women, and just for their looks or body parts. And now everyone is either forced to adopt the new term, or keep the original term but have to deal with misconceptions and constantly have to clarify that you aren't what they randomly changed the definition of lesbian to mean. And when you point out "actually lesbian never excluded trans women or implied I don't care about personality" and people respond by saying "oh well I still like the new term anyways its a personal choice and it's not hurting anyone" even though the literal existence of the new word implies things that aren't true about the old term. That's exactly what pansexual did to bisexuals

Edit: I've been informed that people actually DO this to lesbians too and that's not cool. How about we don't base our orientations on attraction to trans people because trans men are men and trans women are women so they are already included in l g and b attractions

It’s almost as if pansexuality has consistently been used to actively erase bisexuality because people hate us so goddamn much

"Why do people call all pan characters bisexual?" well, probably bc pansexuality is the same thing as bisexuality?? And bisexual people are tried of biphobia and pretending like there is a difference

Bisexuality is attraction regardless of gender. Some Bisexuals do have preferences, some don't

Pansexuality means exactly the same thing. All attempts to say the difference between these two is always just a straight up biphobia

Everyone who is attracted to men and women is bisexual and people have a right to call everyone who is attracted to men and women bisexual. Just like people can call a woman who loves only women a lesbian or a man who loves only men a gay, or those who are attracted only to the opposite sex heterosexual

And removing this right form bisexual people is nothing but biphobia

People are really so afraid of calling themselves bisexual that they have made up millions of idiotic names for bisexuality and It's a real problem (pansexual, omnisexual, polysexual, abroaexual, gaybian...and every other non-existed sexuality that actually is just BIsexuality)

Just imagine how would society react if people have created and spread new sexualities for, for example, "women who love women and all other genders/trans people, except men/" and "men who love men and all other genders/trans people, but women" and every time they see a woman who loves women and doesn't like men, they won’t just call her a lesbian, they will call her "nomensexual" or something like that and if you dare to say she's actually lesbian, they will call you homophobic for not seing the opportunity of her actually identifying herself as "nomensexual"

Sounds weird, terrible and lesbophobic? No wonder

That's actually hard to imagine, while bisexuals don't even have to imagine this, bc that's what happens every day and It's so normalized that the majority of the people doesn't even see the problem

This is it. This is what the pan label did to bisexual people.

No matter how hard you all try to change the meaning of pansexuality, it will always stem out of misunderstanding bisexuality. It will always be the result of transphobia and a false belief that bisexuality is about being attracted to cis men and cis women. I hate this and I hate you all for forcing us to be ashamed of our identity.

society if people actually learned bisexual history and dealt with their internalised biphobia

pansexuals will scream at bisexuals for not knowing their special little personal pet definition of pansexuality but then when bisexuals actually ask the difference between pansexuality and bisexuality they just go “oh well it’s subjective, it varies from person to person“  

lmfao

honestly the number of identities and flags and rhetorical positions that have been created to avoid the word ‘bisexual’ is just sad. it’s really sad. there’s no punchline to this post 

oh my god i just saw the dumbest thing today. someone identifying as "panromantic bisexual" ??? what the fuck does this mean?? what is the difference??

My brain is leaking out of my ears. I am at the end of my rope. Literally... What is the point of that label.

happy pride month fellow bisexuals. world in shambles because disney-trademarked god is bisexual

The Bisexual community: Pansexuality should stop being used because it's an outdated and incorrect term with transphobic origins that is still, to this day, hindering bisexuality as an orientation, as well as spreading and promoting biphobic/transphobic rhetoric

Stupid fucking p*nsexuals: why are you spreading hate uwu we're all in the same boat here uwu you shouldn't call us out when we talk over you & spread false info about y'all

I am so sick of people saying they ~identify~ as bisexual or lesbian or gay or whatever. Either you are or you aren't. If you wiped my memory and dropped me on a deserted island and then dropped a man and woman off with me, a) I'd be able to recognize that my body is the same as the woman's and different from the man's and b) I'd be attracted to both of them (assuming they're my type) because bisexuality is an innate part of me and not something I choose or is influenced by the world around me/society.

You can identify as a member of a club, or religion. You can identify as a fan of a book or tv show. You can identify as supporter of a political movement or member of a political party. These are all things you choose.

You cannot identify as something that is an innate biological reality, and it's insulting in the extreme to try.

it's especially funny that people say bisexuality is just an umbrella term for other things but if they were referred to as bisexual they would throw a fit

hi can i pls ask an ignorant question? if bi means being attracted to all the genders, what's the difference between that and pan? sorry if the answer's really obvious i know nothing lol

Hi so, honestly, there isnt a difference between bi and pan, bi is attraction to all genders, we have two labels that describe the same orientation.

Basically, the pan label was popularised online in the early 2000s. at the time there was a pervasive idea tht bisexuals were only attracted to cis men and women. This is from the first post on the 2002 Livejournal community, I Am Pansexual:

“… [T]his community is for pansexuals, as described in the user info. Pansexuals love people of all genders, male and female, but unlike bisexuals, pansexuals love transgendered, androgynous and gender fluid people, people who don’t fit into the categories of male or female.”

you can find the source for that quote and read more info on the history of pansexuality here. Those who IDed with the pan label back then used pan to mean attraction to cis men, cis women, and trans people. This definition is transphobic, trans men and women arent different genders to cis men and women and therefore, they dont fall under a separate attraction, nonbinary people arent a new third gender that you need a whole new and different sexuality in order to be attracted to. This is generally what people are referring to when they say the pansexual label has transphobic origins, but there have also been several redefinitions of pan that have also been transphobic.

I reccomend watching this youtube video which addresses the narrative that bi activism has a history of ‘rampant transphobia’.

Since 2002 the label has gone through several changes in definition, but the most common one lately seems to be that pan is attraction to all genders (regardless of gender); while bi is attraction to 2 or more (gender is a factor in attraction).

But if we look back at bi history, we can see that bisexuality has never been limited by gender, bisexuals were never fixated on the bi = 2 definition. its also useful to know that when people first started iding as bisexual (Stephen Donaldson, also known as Donny the Punk, was one of the first people to id as bisexual in around 1966 and the label gained popularity in the 70s), it meant something similar to unisex.

Bisexuals have been describing their bisexuality as attraction regardless of gender since the 70s;

“Being bisexual does not mean they have sexual relations with both sexes but that they are capable of meaningful and intimate involvement with a person regardless of gender”

Janet Bode, The Pressure Cooker, View From Another Closet (1976)

“I am bisexual because I am drawn to particular people regardless of gender. It doesn’t make me wishy-washy, confused, untrustworthy, or more sexually liberated. It makes me a bisexual.”

The Bisexual Community: Are We Visible Yet?, By Lani Ka’ahumanu (1987)

and The 1990 Bisexual Manifesto:

“Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have "two" sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders.”

evidences that bisexuals were aknowledging nonbinary genders (although they would have used genderqu**r or genderfuck instead of nonbinary as nonbinary was coined as a gender term more recently than the 90s) and including them in their bisexuality a decade before the I Am Pansexual community even existed. This is one of the many reasons why the pan label is also biphobic, because it trys to redefine bisexuality against bisexuals will, so that pan can mean attraction to all genders instead of bisexual.

If you want to read more about how different definitions of pansexual are based in biphobia i reccomend this article.

Here is the current defintion of bisexuality, as used by the American Institute of Bisexuality, and the Journal of Bisexuality. from the bi.org website:

"There are as many ways to be bi as there are bi people. No one word can fully capture the nuances of personality, culture, beliefs, or personal preference; no word should try to. The term bisexuality makes no such pretense—  it is a general and inclusive term that encompasses everyone; all sexes and all genders. That does not mean that bi people are attracted to everyone, merely that bi people’s attractions aren’t limited by sex or gender."

“Please also note that attraction to both same and different means attraction to all. Bisexuality is inherently inclusive of everyone, regardless of sex or gender.“

If you want to read more about bi history then this article; The Bisexual History They Don’t Want You to Know by @mediumkravitz is a good place to start. Kravtiz has also written; Does Liking a Nonbinary Person Make You Bi or Pan? Not Necessarily. which might clear up any confusion on where attraction to nonbinary genders fits into sexuality.

Also lastly, if you would like to read more on bisexuality and bi history, i recently made this masterlist of bi books, which might be helpful.

society if people could just say bisexual

you’re not “pansexual” you’re just a bisexual with a superiority complex