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Ddlg moments #1 <3
I asked my mom yesterday if I can have a baby bottle, she looked at me as if I was joking though I wasn’t. Then she told me that she get me one from her work. She brought 3 of them, I love my mom <3
DDLG moment #2
Just got home from work, and the first thing I see is a blue plastic bag. I was thinking “Oke, wtf?” I looked inside and saw very adorable panties that my mother got me. Then I remember I told my mom that I wanted cute panties. I love my mom <3 she understands me :) ^_^ I also found some lemon ice tea in the fridge. BEST. DAY. EVER!! <3 *jumps up and down happily*
BTW!! I meant my real mother, the one who gave birth to me. Not a Mommy! And I am little without a Daddy or a Mommy, but I thought some of you might understand better if I put DDLG title then Nymphet in the title.
Valentine’s Care!
Hi everyone! Happy Valentines Day! Love it or hate it, it’s Valentine’s Day. Not the happiest of days for a lot of people. If you’re lucky enough to have a caregiver or little take the time today to show them how much you care! Treat them like the adorable little princes and princesses that they are. And Little’s take time today to show your caregiver how much you appreciate what they do. Be on your best behavior, color them a picture or make them something cute! Don’t think I forgot about all you single caregivers and Little’s. As much as you may or may not hate today, take this time to pamper yourself! You’ve earned it! Take a bubble bath or have a cartoon marathon with your stuffies. Just relax and take a day for yourself. You deserve it. Just a friendly reminder to everyone. My inbox is always open if you need it, I don’t bite I promise ☺️
Stuffies!
Stuffies are one of the greatest gifts to ever bless this world. They come in all shapes, sizes, and species. They can be bought in large numbers and be considered a bed or mean more than anything else in the world to someone. Now, how to go about getting one:
Yard sales!
•probably the cheapest way to get stuffies
•never know what you’ll find
•they have character and a story if you think about it
• however, yard sale stuffies MUST BE WASHED! You can never tell what someone else’s house was like before they moved or had the yard sale. Carefully wash all stuffies per maker guidelines and put in a plastic bag for 24hrs or more to kill any bugs or eggs that are on or inside them. I know it’s exciting getting new stuffies but you have to be careful
Online!
• online shopping is probably the next cheapest way to buy stuffies depending on where you shop.
• some places will custom make you something
• you can find specific stuffies you want
• you can send them to your significant other without paying high shipping fees like you would through a post office
• however what you gain in prices you lose in guarantee.
• some places are scams
• some places are low quality
• you can usually avoid this by looking at reviews and other people’s purchases but nothing is 100% full proof.
Stores!
•Lastly we have stores which don’t tend to be extremely cheap but you do get to see the product in the flesh before you buy
• guaranteed quality
• you can shop specific stores for specific things
• some stores let you make and dress up your stuffie yourself
• however like with the yard sale stuffies you need to clean these unles you bought them in a sealed packaging
• lots of people go in and out of that store and put their hands on those stuffies too so it’s better safe than sorry
I really hope this was helpful! Just some stuffie tips for all you Littles and caregivers out there!
So I’m a little and my gf knows this. She knows I want a cg, and she’s asked if I would want her to be mine. Then she asks what to do differently and how to exactly be that, and I don’t know what to say! I get embarrassed when she’s asks, help!
Omg I’m so sorry I didn’t see this till now. I would say just talk to her. I know it’s embarrassing but communication is absolutely key to any relationship. You have to put your needs on the table and tell her how you need her to care for you. So before you talk to her make a list of your needs and wants. The rules you need to help you and the things you want out of it. It’ll take a while and you’ll have to be patient until she gets the hang of it. Start gradually and go from there. But you absolutely have to put communication first so any problems can be worked out as soon as possible. It’s great she’s willing to listen and adapt so don’t let that go to waste.
Rules!!
Rules are the basis for many cg/l and d/s relationships. They allow for an exchange of power and give the dominant or caregiver a way to help the little or submissive grow and learn as a person. I’ve met and talked to a lot of people that have trouble making a basic rule list that works for them weather it be the dominant or submissive making it. So this is my basic list. It’s all the rules I would usually include:
1. ready for bed (shower, brush teeth, pajamas, etc) by 9pm
2. In bed and asleep by 10pm
3. No bringing harm to yourself
4. No harming others unless in self defense
5. At least two good meals a day
6. Always tell me if you will be gone for long periods of time, why, and how long. (I will never control who you hang out with, just wanna know you're safe)
7. Absolutely NO drugs or alcohol unless prescribed by a doctor.
8. Always ask for sweets.
9. No sweets after 9pm
10. Refusing to do an AGREED UPON punishment will result in a worsened punishment. (This is not saying punishments can not be taken off limits or discussed. Your feelings come first in all of this. It just serves as a warning to do what you're told when you break a rule.
11. You will never hold back on how you feel about things like rules or punishments. This is for your safety and happiness
12. You are ALWAYS allowed to come to me with any problem, concern, or worry 24/7
13. Clean your room once a week
14. No getting in trouble at school
15. No junk food unless you ask first
16. No talking bad about yourself
17. No cussing
18. Talk to me at least once a day no matter what
19. Try your best in everything
Rules vary greatly from person to person. I believe rules should always be negotiable for the submissives saftey and happiness. Making compromises that suit you both is an essential part in making this work. ALWAYS keep a clear line of communication between you and your partner. I can speak from experience that ignoring a problem or leaving it to fester will only make it worse for the both of you. I hope this helps lovelies ☺️
Long Distance Relationships
Long distance relationships are, in my opinion, one of the absolute hardest to make work. And make work for the long haul. There are so many things that could go wrong but when those things don’t it only makes you and your partner closer and stronger than anyone else. Let’s go over the pros and cons of general ldr first.
*pros
- you have literally an entire planet of people to pick from so you’re bound to find your soulmate somewhere
- You have a reason to save money and do better for yourself and go see somewhere new with someone you love
- Making it work will only make the both of you stronger together
- You can discover a new culture/society/ place and learn about life for your partner wherever they live
- You can teach someone new traditions and customs
- You don’t have to pay outrageous shipping fees to send them something if you get it online.
- These are only the ones I could think of. Feel free to add your own if they aren’t here!
*cons
- little to no physical contact
- Time zone differences
- You need to trust your partner 100%
- Late nights and early mornings because of time differences
- Loneliness from lack of physical contact
- Idiots butting into your personal life because they feel they know best
- The closest you can get for now is Skype calls and FaceTime
- Not being able to scare those who hurt your significant other.
You can compare those two lists and make your own assessment on which matters more. I personally prefer long distance in the beginning but once I’ve found that special person I want to spend my life with I want them as close as possible.
Now onto ldr for cg/l and d/s relationships. These include all of the pros and cons from the first two lists with a couple extra cons due to the nature of these relationships.
- ABSOLUTE TRUST. cg/l and d/s relationships already require much more trust than a vanilla or normal relationship so to do them long distance you need even more.
- Punishments are a bit of a Grey area. You have to trust that your little or submissive will follow through with them especially for the ones you really have no way of checking.
- COMMUNICATION. I don’t think I could ever say this enough but communication is so. Fluffin. Important! Long distance makes communication hard as it is so with cg/l and d/s relationships again needing even more of it than normal it becomes a huge issue a lot of times. You need to communicate any and all problems or concerns to your partner when you are long distance especially because they are not there. They can not read your body language or nervous ticks and habits from miles and miles and miles away.
Okay now onto the part where I do my best to help.
_ Skype (play)dates and scenes can be very helpful with being more connected with your partner. Get creative with those camera angles people because you’ll need it.
As far as punishments go there are a few that can be done and you can know they got done correctly.
- writing lines
- Skyping while the sub or little sits in corner time
- Dictionary definitions
- Silent treatment
- I know most of these seem childish but they are effective. If you have any more feel free to add them!
And lastly but certainly not least COMMUNICATION
-weekly talk it out sessions where once a week you both sit down and have a serious talk about your lives, thoughts, concerns, relationship, the whole shabang.
-being clear and open about what’s on your mind
-lay it all out. Don’t hide anything. It will come back to haunt you later.
That is all I have for today if you have any questions, comments, concerns, feel free to contact me. Be good, stay safe, and have fun!
Self Care
Self care is so important for caregivers/doms and Littles/subs alike. It is important for doms because subs depend on you to take care of them and you can not do that without taking care of yourself first. Think of it like this, an empty battery can not power something else. You need to feel good to make sure they feel good. Subs need to care for themselves because you can not always count on a dom to be able to completely care for you especially if you don’t have one.
Dom selfcare.
- let yourself relax. Take a day to just give yourself a re charge
- Take a warm bath
- Jam out to music
- Make yourself a nice meal
- Order take out and laze around in sweats with Netflix or Hulu
- Take a mid day nap
- Binge your favorite show
- Talk to someone and just let out your frustration
Sub selfcare
- Drown in your headspace and let your problems float away.
- Cuddle with your stuffies
- Make a pillow fort
- Take a bubble bath
- Stay in your jammies all day
- Eat an okay amount of sweets and junk food(something not detrimental to your health)
- Color to your hearts content
- Dance around the house to music
Everyone needs to take the occasional personal day to work on themselves and recharge. No matter what helps you do that, it’s worth it if it helps to better yourself. You can not help others if you can’t help yourself.
I know this is shorter than usual but it’s something that I felt needed to be said. Until next time Be good, stay safe, and have fun!
Safe words!
We’re talking safewords words today kiddos. In my opinion, they are one of the most important aspects in this community next to communication but they also go hand in hand. A safeword is a word used during a scene or 24/7 sub/dom (and the nsfw side of cg/l) dynamic. It needs to be something you would never accidentally say while in the moment or just in everyday life.
Common Safe words-
* green for go
* Yellow for slow down or need a break
* Red for stop immediately
I refer to this as coloring out and I’ve seen the term used a lot in the community. I believe that while doing an intense scene or pushing your subs limits you should check on them throughout by asking their color.
Other Safeword suggestions
* pineapple
* Unicorn
* Dragon
* Freeze
* Mango
* Phone number (from a book. It’s actually sad)
* Ladybug
* Apple
* Drop
The list could go on and on and on. It just has to be a random word that will get your doms attention quickly. Doms who do not listen to safe words are to be avoided at all costs. This is very bad and very dangerous for the submissive, safewords are there to protect you. Not to be taken lightly.
Those are verbal safewords, if the sub can not speak for this or that reason then there are still ways to give them the ability to safeword.
* hold a ball in your hand. Drop it to safeword.
* A small metal bar, drop to safeword
* Tap a designated spot on your body
* Clap( if possible)
* If not, shake your hands(like jazz hands)
* A button strapped to the subs palm, press it so it makes an alerting noise
These can also go on and on. It is really just what works for you and what will get your doms attention efficiently.
A fair amount of new subs or subs with a new dominant do not like to safeword because they feel it makes them look weak, this is absolutely not the case. Safewords are always appropriate whenever they are needed! Do not force yourself to do something you are not comfortable with to please anyone! They are meant to keep you safe, comfortable, and happy.
That’s all for today. Be good, be safe, and have fun!
Dom Drop and Sub Drop
Okay lovelies I will be covering subdrop AND domdrop tomorrow. It’s gonna be long. It’s gonna be extensive but if there’s anything you feel should definitely be in there or an experience you’ve personally had with either of them and you want me to add what helped you or how you knew what was going on or the symptoms you feel need to be covered let me know!!!! Either through anon or messages my inbox is always open but with such a serious topic I want to make sure I cover every base possible. Thank you for all your help lovelies!! Be good, be safe, and have fun!
Subdrop
For the multi-roll labeling purpose today I’m going to refer to it as Drop. Drop happens usually after an intense scene but can also happen after any scene if it was particularly pleasurable and draining. Drop is the result of your brain releasing “happy chemicals” and adrenaline in large doses during a scene and then your body and mental state going through a withdrawal essentially because they are not coming in at such high doses after the scene has ended. For subs it usually happens within a day or two of the scene. However, for doms it could be several days before it kicks in and really hits you. It’s especially bad for subs and doms with anxiety or self doubt. I will be covering both subdrop and domdrop today because they are both very real and could potentially be very dangerous.
Subdrop-
Subdrop tends to happen a day or two after a scene. It does not always happen but those no real way to guarantee it won’t happen so it’s good to keep an eye out for it any time. There are a lot of different ways it can show up. Let’s talk about the physical things first
- It can show up as feeling like a hangover
- like you stayed up too late (even if you got more than enough sleep)
- you could wake up feeling just off
- Drop can be associated with feelings of loneliness, mental and physical exhaustion, confusion, insecurity, tremors and many other physical symptoms.
Not so random fact: pain can make you tired. You’re going to feel it and it’s going to wear your energy down, and your body is going to be short on chemicals to give you a boost. This can make you crash and suddenly become exhausted, and being tired can make you emotional.
Honestly, the emotional side is the more dangerous half. Emotions can wreak havoc on our logic,you could be great one minute like normal, then suddenly you’re completely out of it and it can be mental torture.
- you could feel abandoned
- Depression(especially if you already have it on a daily basis)
- Even feeling unloved is common during subdrop.
Subdrop can not be prevented or avoided entirely. You can try but there’s no sure fire way to do so. Here’s how to help subdrop:
- If you can get to your dom and they can help you calm down and reassure you with cuddles and words that works fairly well for most people.
- COMMUNICATION( I really can not say that enough) Text or call your Dom as soon as possible.
- if you can’t get a hold of them, you need to stop and evaluate.
- Remind yourself that sub drop is normal
- remind yourself of what happened during and after the session.
- There should have been some type of aftercare, go back to that moment and stay there.
- Remember how loved you felt, hold on to the fact that your dom cares for you.
- Take your self to a happy place with happy and positive thoughts
If you’re feeling a little emotional, think of what makes you feel better when you’re sick (because you kind of are). A warm blanket, a bubble bath, candy, a favorite drink, music, etc. If you are someone who likes to journal, keep a notebook with you to write out how you feel to get the words out and down, this might also help you clear your head before you talk to your Dom.
Okay I know I was supposed to have this up a while ago but I had several things come up. I just recently got a new job and that’s been taking up a lot more of my free time which was sparse enough since I try to meet with my friends often. As you can see this only covers subdrop. I’m not confident in the level of research I’ve been able to do on domdrop and don’t want to give vague or incorrect information to you guys. I’ll try to get it done soon but no promises. I will also be at daughters of the moon which is a Wiccan event this weekend so contact and any sort of posting will be delayed until at least Monday. As always be good, stay safe, and have fun!
Just found it funny that this is casual conversation for me and my friends. I’ve also been called “The Mom That Gives”. Being the mom friend is so nice. Anyways I’m all settled into the new place for the most part. I should be back to posting soon but I’m also still looking for a job so when that happens I might have to slow down a bit. I’ve seen a few people saying their ask box isn’t working so if you’ve sent me an ask or a message and haven’t gotten any sort of reply then please contact me on my kik: Freshie_Fangirl or my Snapchat by the same name. That’s all for now, be good, be safe, and have fun!
Talking with my friend. He hasn’t been happy in space in a while and definitely usually doesn’t accept compliments. I’m so proud of how far he’s come
Sprinkle Jar Craft
So I have a *small* obsession with candles and candle melts so today me and my little friend made jars with shredded candle melts or “sprinkles” in them so you can mix and match smells in a candle wax warmer! These were super cute and super fun to make so I thought I’d share it here. It’s easy and fun to do either alone or with your little or cg or just a group of friends!
You’re gonna need
-candle melts
-exacto knife
-jelly jars(any size works!)
*optional
-paint
-glitter
-paint brushes
-mod podge
-anything else you want to decorate the jars with!
First you wanna shred up your candle melts. You might want to have supervision for this little loves and be careful! Take the exacto knife and cut thin slices off the candle melts and put them into the jars. If you’re using yankee candle candle melts then they should just crumble up no problem and no knife needed!
You wanna do that till all the jars are full but not all the way to the top. You can fill as few or as many jars as you want!
Next we painted the lids white and let them dry, this might take a few coats to get them all white!
After that we put mod podge on the top part of the lid and coated it with glitter. I ended up doing two coats to make it extra sparkly. I used a bowl to put the excess glitter in so I could pour it back in the jar later
Then we let everything dry and put the lids on the jars and here’s what we had!
And that’s it! That’s all for today lovelies. It’s been a while so I wanted something fun for you guys to do! I hope you enjoy and if you make any I’d love to see them! Be good, be safe, and have fun!
Let Me Be Sappy For A Minute
Okay so it’s very late for me and unfortunately I can’t sleep. I’ve been hoping from one ASMR video to the next and no luck. However, with a lot of those being from Karuna Satori (actual goddess of my sleep schedule) I feel like being sappy because I feel like I haven’t touched base and interacted with you guys a lot. I love all of you dearly whether we talk or not and no matter how small this blog is currently it always lifts my mood to know that in some capacity, no matter how miniscule it is, I’ve been able to help SOMEONE, or make them smile for the first time that day, or helped them solve a problem or hell, even just help with their homework! I’ve done something to make someone’s life just a bit better and that’s all thanks to you guys. I’ve moved back home and gotten in a much better mental state than I was in July. I have two jobs, one of which is my dream job that I wake up ready and excited to go to everyday and it finally feels like things are working out. Thank you guys, so so much. I truly do love and appreciate all of you. As always, be good, be safe, and have fun.
Bought my first piece of furniture that is completely mine. Not a hand me down or bought with money I didn’t earn. Wish I had a little to cuddle with because it has the perfect space for a blanket fort 😔
So um I have a mommy thing.... and it’s hard to come out and say yes I like being lg for mommy than daddy but it hard to meet a female that like that and I guess my reason is because I was raised without my mom in my life but I am bisexual I find mommy more better any thoughts on how I could meet someone
Hey there sweet pea! Sad to say but I get this one a lot. Finding a caregiver is the same as dating just with a few extra requirements. The best advice I can give is just to put yourself out there and talk to people. There are plenty of mommy run blogs such as this one on here and groups on apps like whisper. You could even try a few groups on Facebook and that may also help you find your local community. My one big warning is to be careful of what you send other people. Especially if you are doing something online only. Take your time and get to know people. The internet will let you meet a much larger pool of people than just sticking to your local community however, it also means that you may come across many more people who are only after sex or nudes or to hurt you. Keep an eye out for red flags and if you’re unsure then ask someone for their opinion. More often than not, someone who is unbiased can see more than you can. That’s as much advice as I can give on that and feel free to message me if you have any more questions lovely. Be good, be safe, and have fun!
My tummy hurts, i need cuddles, love and support 😭😭
please please please :(((
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