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This one’s for the caregivers! Say hi to your littles for me💗😊
🌱 Tips for New Cg’s!! 🌱
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first, let’s start off with what a caregiver is! a caregiver is someone who cares for an age regressor/dreamer! they may sometimes set little rules or goals for them as well! they make sure the regressor is taking care of themselves (like drinking water, or doing school work when they should!) or reassuring and comforting them when they’re not feeling too great! caregivers can also have rewards or punishments. a caregiver can be a friend, a partner, or even a trusted family member! sometimes, regressors use certain nicknames to address their cg, such as: “mommy/daddy, papa, mama, bubby, big bear,” etc! (here’s a list of cg nicknames i made!)
becoming someone’s caregiver requires lots of communication!! every regressor is different, and they all have different needs! be sure to discuss what your regressor needs from you! maybe they just want some reassurance every now and then! or help with regressing and staying small! or to be praised for doing things like homework so they can feel motivated to do it the next time as well!
rules: rules can be very helpful when taking care of a regressor! however, some regressors might not want rules! be sure to discuss this with them first! again, every regressor has different needs to meet! like how you might not want to punish a regressor for not going to bed on time when they have insomnia! this is why it’s very important to discuss it with them beforehand!! with that out of the way, here are some rule ideas!
1. brush your teeth at least twice a day!
2. no sweets before bedtime!
3. try to drink enough water everyday!
4. always hold my hand when crossing the street!
5. ask before eating sweets!
6. bedtime at 10:00pm!
7. no saying bad words!
8. always be honest!
9. eat at least 2 meals a day!
10. make your bed every morning!
punishments: now, what do you do if your regressor isn’t following any of your rules? some caregivers use punishments! (and i cannot stress enough how important it is to talk to your regressor about them BEFORE you give them any punishments!!) again, punishments should never be physical!! and you should never take away a comfort item as punishment! another important thing to note is that you should never punish them for something they can’t control! always talk to them about it! communication is very important! with that being said, here are some punishment ideas:
1. early bedtime
2. time out
3. limited screen time for tv or other electronics
4. no sweets
5. taking away or lengthening the time it takes to revive a reward. (which i will get into right now!)
rewards: for regressors who follow the rules, or reach certain goals, you may want to give them a reward! rewards are great! they may motivate your regressor to do things they need to do like chores or homework! and they’ll encourage them to follow the rules you have set for them as well! examples of how a reward may work is “if you drink enough water for 3 days, i’ll buy you a new toy!” or “if you finish all your homework tonight, then tomorrow, we’ll take a trip to the library!” something i see often, but isn’t usually brought up is when your regressor is truly trying their hardest!! they may be working on as much homework as they can but still unable to finish it. please be sure to recognize their effort!! tell them they still did an amazing job for doing their best! in cases like this, i believe they still deserve a rewards! here are some reward ideas! :
1. a new toy/game!
2. a sticker!
3. extra time before bedtime!
4. something yummy!
5. a trip to the park!
activities: here are some fun things you can do with them! remeber that everyone has different interests and find joy and entertainment in different things!!
1. have a tea party/ picnic!
2. help them make a cool fort!
3. have a disney movie marathon!
4. take them to the park or a zoo!
5. color pictures for each other!
6. play some video games with them!
7. do some cooking or baking together!
8. having fun with bubbles!
9. go out for a walk! make a list of things for your regressor to find on the way!
10. play games like hide and seek!
if you didn’t know, regressors can regress to different ages! punishments, rules and rewards should reflect that! for example, you can’t punish a two year old for not making their bed! they may not know how! and you can’t give a two year old a new game that’s rated 17+ as a reward! so be sure to discuss age and what rules, punishments, and rewards work best for your regressor!
important things to take note of:
• learn your regressor’s triggers if they have any. this is very important!!
• treat them like you would a little kid! they are not acting little. they are literally and truly in the mindset of a little kid!! for instance, be impressed if they show you a drawing they made!
• do not ignore your regressor’s emotions. if they cry over something that seems silly, they are still sad. no matter how “small” the issue is. give them proper care and comfort.
• be patient!! some regressors can’t verbally communicate when regressed to a certain age! and that may also be the case if they are neurodivergent! be sure to talk to them about this! maybe learn simple sign language! <3
• do not neglect your regressor. not even as a punishment. while you do not have to be in contact with them 24/7, it’s nice to have a small heads up if you can!
• learn their stuffie’s names! this goes such a long way!! stuffies are super important to some of us!! and learning their names tells us you’ve been paying attention!
i hope this guide helps any new caregivers!! if you have any questions, i’d be happy to answer as best as i can!! and remeber, COMMUNICATION IS IMPORTANT!! <33
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It means so much to me to read these kinds of things. I got so burnt out when dealing with really bratty littles in the past (ngl I think some of them were actually just toxic but that's a story for another day). I just wanna encourage healthy habits and boost them up when they show me things (like colouring pages, new soft toys, cooking their own food, making the bed etc). I just wanna have them comfy sleepy vibes with a smol one and explore my childish side too :}
Soft caregivers matter too!
As a caregiver I think it’s okay not to be so tough or strong. Sometimes you just want to be a soft one and thats okay!!! Interacting with your little softly is not a bad thing and does not make you appear childish with them! I think it’s important to have that dynamic, it’s not all about strictness and rules.
Don’t think you’re not doing enough or being how you should be, its really up to you and your little one!
I believe that traumatized littles deserve more love/recognition. Yes, while many think agere is cutesy, it's a coping mechanism at the end of the day, after all.
It's okay to be all scared and sad while regressed. It's okay to be constantly clingy to your caregiver because you're scared they'll leave, or you're scared to be alone or hurt. It's okay to not like certain cartoons because they stir up trauma and anxiety. It's okay if you cope with scary cartoons or anything of the sort to cope. It's okay to have meltdowns because you got triggered while regressing or slipping into it.
Overall. You all are valid and loved. I would hold you all close and take care of you if I could.
my favorite trope ever is nonhuman caregiver x human regressor :0}