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This just occurred to me but shout out to aspec folks who figured out they were aspec while having depression. I've never seen anyone mention it but honestly we deserve an award for managing to figure out our lack of attraction while feeling little if nothing most of the time, cheers lads, we're great

every time i see the “aromantics are lucky cause they don’t go through heartbreak” i just laugh.

cause when my best friend moved away, when i failed that test i pulled four all-nighters studying for, when my awesome guy friend had to stop hanging out with me because his girlfriend felt jealous, when me or someone else is targeted because of my/their race or orientation or gender, when i realize that COVID won’t be leaving any time soon, when my parents expect me to get married to a man someday and i realize i can’t ever come out to them if i want them to love me, when other people in the aspec community shame me for being alloaro, when i look in the mirror and break down because i don’t feel like i belong in my body, when i don’t know where i’m going in life because i was always told it was supposed to have romance... among so many other things, i feel heartbreak. every. single. day.

but no, heartbreak has to be inherently romantic. because non-romantic pain is somehow inherently weaker or nonexistent. because romantic feelings are the only form of emotion. because losing a friend or a loved one is somehow inherently not as significant as losing a romantic partner, because apparently, aromantic = emotionless.

and honestly? having my struggles invalidated like that is more heartbreaking than ever.