18+ Pac - Tumblr Posts
I’m back with a new PAC!
Went away for a little while but I’m here with the hopes to stay and be more consistent!💓
MESSAGES FROM THEM - NO CONTACT/SEPARATION
Pile 1 to 3 , left to right ☔️🍒🍉🍓🌴🌱 as always remember to only take what resonates and leave the rest 💓
Pile 1☔️☂️🌂
“I hadn’t healed from my previous relationship before I met you, I let my fears get the better of me”
“On the outside I might look that I have moved on or that I’m having the best time of my life, but believe me behind closed doors I always think about you”
Find a message from me in the song “a different way” by Lauv
“No there wasn’t and there isn’t anyone else”
“ I know you don’t trust me anymore, but I want to try again?”
“I always stalk your social media”
“My friends and family are still asking me about you”
“I have heard some gossip about you, not sure how to feel about it”
“I have the ring still” message from a fire sign placement
“You was right all along, I just hated to admit it to you”
Pile 2 🍒🍓🍉
“ I know I said I wasted my time but I didn’t mean it, I just wanted to hurt you back”
“I’m afraid you’re getting over us” message from a water placement
“I miss you in my bed first thing in the morning, you’re sleepy eyes are the cutest”
“Don’t give up on me” Earth sign placement
“I wasn’t in it just for the sex”
“no matter how much I try, I know your love can’t be replaceable, I know that now”
“I want you to be one that stays”
“You’re so scary when you get mad😅”
“I’m falling even deeper than before”
Pile 3 🪴🌴🌱
“I think about you all the time, it’s draining me”
“I still have and listen to the playlist you’ve made me to this day”
“Your words cut deepppp” message from a air sign
“You had me feel something that nobody did before”
“When I close my eyes all I see is you”
“No you wasn’t a rebound, I actually think I fell for you even more than I ever did for my ex”
“I know I gave you mixed signals, I didn’t know what I wanted back then but now I do, will you give me another chance?” Message from a Aries smrv
“I’m thinking about reaching out to you, let’s not rush things this time around”
18+ PICK A CARD ⋆ how can you improve your sex life with your partner?
reminder that this is a general reading and messages found here may not apply to everyone. take what resonates, leave what doesn't, and don't force anything if it does not fit.
BOOK A READING WITH ME · LINKTREE · SUGGEST A PAC TOPIC · TIPS ♡ tips and feedback are highly appreciated!
GROUP ONE
cards · strength, nine of pentacles, ten of wands, eight of swords, five of cups (reversed). waning moon: let go of that which is causing you inner turmoil. now is a time for casting away emotions that are no longer serving you. moon totem – wolf: beware of letting your wilder instincts spin out of control.
my dear group one ♡ one way that you can improve your sex life with your partner is to take a more proactive role and be the one who takes control and initiates change. your partner may not be feeling either way about your sex life as it is, thinking that it’s a bit dull or unsatisfying but to be expected as time passes and as you have sex with the same person over and over.
that’s not to say that they do not enjoy it, rather that you both would benefit from the excitement that exploring new things can bring.
sex can be many things, and one of the best things about being with someone for a long period of time is that you two get to explore the world of sex together. grow and learn together.
it will be a good decision to talk to your partner about where they find sex lacking and what are some things they would like to add or change. create an open discussion between you and your partner and decide what the two of you can try out together. remember, too, that sex isn’t one-sided or only about your own pleasure and that is okay to put yourself a bit out of your comfort zone for your partner’s pleasure—especially if you are expecting them to push themselves a bit out of theirs.
also do not forget that improving your sex life is not just about penetration and what you two can do in sex, but about fostering intimacy in all areas of your life.
where are you not making your partner feel loved, cared for, and appreciated on the day-to-day? how are they not making you feel loved, cared for, and appreciated on the day-to-day? how could this be affecting your shared sex life?
open and honest communication is key! even if it is hard.
GROUP TWO
cards · two of swords, five of pentacles (reversed), the tower (reversed), eight of wands, death. waning moon: let go of that which is causing you inner turmoil. now is a time for casting away emotions that are no longer serving you. moon totem – cow: a new beginning, or even a new life.
my dear group two ♡ you are currently feeling as if sex with your partner is boring and that it is your partner who needs to do something in order to make your sex life exciting again.
you’re looking at them and thinking, “well other people talk about how their partner does this in bed and my friend talks about how their partner does that to them,” but you’re not actually telling your partner that you’re unsatisfied or doing anything to make bring some pleasure and satisfaction back into your shared sex life.
your partner is not psychic! they will not know what’s wrong if you don’t tell them!
in order to improve your sex life with your partner, you are going to need to change your approach to sex before casting judgement on your partner and what you perceive as their failings.
is it even fair for you to look upon them in this way, when you should be looking at them with love, understanding, and kindness? when you should be making efforts to at least try to meet them halfway and figure out if they are also having issues with your sex life as it is?
to be blunt, my dear, it isn't all about you and it is unfair to place the pressure of your pleasure completely on your partner’s shoulders without even trying to communicate with them first.
GROUP THREE
cards · the tower (reversed), king of pentacles, the devil, six of cups, ten of pentacles (reversed). moon totem – owl: a crisis will allow you to look into yourself and make an important revelation. moon phases – half to full moon: embracing high levels of motivation and energy will bring feelings of empowerment and satisfactions.
my dear group three ♡ you may have had somewhat of a bad sexual experience with your partner lately, maybe you were walked in on or disturbed or had your plans for sex disrupted by work or other obligations.
your life is so busy, which makes sex almost unenjoyable—especially for those of you with kids who, while you love your children, would like just an hour or two to enjoy time with your partner and experience the kind of intimacy that you two crave. even for those without children, you do not have the time you want to have to be with your partner in the way that you both want or need. rather, you do not make time for this.
it is so bad that even the idea of sex seems like a chore. you schedule that this thursday you and your partner will have sex, and you spend every day leading up to that day looking at the calendar and wondering if you’ll actually get to spend time together or if something will come up at the last minute. or if you’ll both be too drained and tired to even look at each other with any sexual desire. one way that you can improve your sex life with your partner is for the both of you to consciously decide to devote time to each other. not just an evening at home, in and out and roll over and go to sleep. something more like a weekend away would be more suited for the two of you in order to rekindle the spark that has been lost.
it doesn’t have to be expensive or extravagant or that far from home, just something that reminds you two that you are people with desires before you are partners or spouses. during this time, spoil each other and pay special attention to each other.
because, my love, if you feel like this relationship is suffering and needs special attention, imagine how your partner feels… try to make this a habit. something you can look forward to not only to find healing as a couple but as individuals with busy lives!
GROUP FOUR
cards · nine of wands, eight of wands, six of cups, the devil, nine of pentacles. blue moon: now is a powerful time to set long-term goals and sow seeds for the future. moon totem – cat: make time to focus on your own spiritual wellbeing and connect to the metaphysical world around you.
my dear group four ♡ the simplest way for you to improve your sex life with your partner is to create a to-do list together of the things that you’re interested in and want to try together.
i actually see a powerpoint presentation, and envision you two having a presentation night, laughing as you describe in detail the things you’re interested in experimenting with or trying!
put together a plan for the next few weeks, months, or the year—maybe a collaborative list on google docs or notion which you both can freely edit whenever a thought pops into your mind—as it will give you both something to look forward to.
especially if you’re both fairly sexually inexperienced or are trying new things sexually, such as bdsm, and aren’t really sure about what you’re doing.
sex doesn’t have to be daunting or methodical or boring! it can be fun, it should be fun, most of all when you’re sharing this beautiful experience with someone you love and care about and who loves and cares about you.
creating a list or plan will make this more exciting for both of you—as well as will make you feel less overwhelmed by the idea of sex with your partner!