So, I Got A Problem, Does Anyone Have Any Advice?

So, I got a problem, does anyone have any advice?

It's not that I worry about what people think of me, no, I worry about how people percieve me.

I will inevitably be percieved as something I'm not (this stresses me out), which (sometimes) causes people not to like me. I still remember someone telling me their impression of me was not great, but with forced proximity they realise I actually am great.

I don't want there to be forced proximity for people to start liking me.

But I can't control their perceptions. Sometimes when I know I am percieved well, I am hesitant to (drastically) change my appearance, fearing their positive perception of me will go away/change. It's uncomfortable.

But for confidence or something like that, I shouldn't care and it is pointless to, but I don't know how. Also, I can control it for a bit. I know that when I look a certain way, people will percieve me as such. So the phrase you can't control it, let it go, doesn't add up here. Of course, I can't totally control it, but I can for a bit.

Does anyone have any tips/knows what I mean?

I see this everywhere, being in the chess community as a woman is just less fun... Too many sexist men.

there's a small subset of female chess streamers and the only ones i can name are these classically beautiful women, with a higher than average number of them having only fans accounts linked in their (chess) profiles, and for me there's this tension btwn not wanting to be puritanical about how women choose to market themselves online (there are a limited number of ways to make money from chess and streaming, and if you're a woman the most sure-fire way to turn a profit is to be typically hot) and intense resentment re: the way that as a woman your looks are still the most important thing in wrt your success. i think the general population has this idea of chess as being this very noble cerebral pursuit where it's really a battle of wits more than anything so base as physical appearance but. yeah it isnt, obviously

And happy holidays!!!

as the colder months approach: i wish you all a healthy, calm end of the year. i wish you tasty cups of tea, comfortable clothes, warm beds, nutritious meals in safe homes, good music, new friends and unwavering health. you deserve good things now.

HEARTBREAKING: Poor girl has to get out of the soft warm bed even though she is so so so so comfy

He's so delusional🥰

Ah yes, the Renegades Trilogy. Or as I like to call it: Nova Artino breaking the law and hoping for the best and Adrian Everhart being in denial for 3 books straight

Crying screaming throwing up over a romantic scenario I had in a dream.